Maya worried about entering into an open relationship with Ollie, but being honest with each other has deepened their relationship
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If I know that Ollie’s on a date, I find it difficult sitting around, not knowing what to do with myself
I knew I liked Ollie immediately. He was the perfect mix of male and female. I asked him what his hobbies are, and he said dressing up as a woman and masturbating furiously. I got the impression he was just looking for sex, but so was I. If either of us had thought the other was looking for something serious, we’d have run a mile.
That Ollie is more experienced in ethical non-monogamy (ENM) made me feel insecure at first. I felt embarrassed about being new at it. I knew that for Ollie it was a non-negotiable, and worried, what if I decide I can’t do it? There’s a part of me that hasn’t fully worked out if I can do this for ever. What if I wake up one day and want him to be mine? With monogamy, you know what the rules are, but with ENM, there are lots of conversations to be had. We’ve agreed to be open and honest, to use protection, and that if I see him out with someone else, I wouldn’t want them to be intimate in front of me.
