Simon and Nicole’s intimacy had waned after three decades together. Having sex with other people allows them to fulfil their personal needs and strengthen their bond as a couple
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I thought Simon might leave me if I said no to swinging. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship
Simon and I met on a blind date when I was 19. I was immediately attracted to him – he looked like a tall Tom Cruise. In the years that followed, we got married, had kids. I was too busy being a mother to think about my needs, or his, which meant Simon stopped feeling wanted. I felt inadequate, like I couldn’t give him what he needed.
When I found flirtatious messages on his phone from another woman, it was a wake-up call. I felt hurt and betrayed, and trust was lost. Then one night in bed, Simon gently suggested swinging. I was resistant to it, but I thought Simon might leave me if I said no. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship. I never thought it would end up bringing so much value to my life.
