Before Miguel, Sandra’s sex life was rather vanilla. When they got together, he suggested swinging – and all that changed
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I never thought, when I was a pregnant Catholic teenager, that I’d have this lifestyle, but my God, it’s fun
After my first marriage ended 15 years ago, I felt as if I had a ton of catching up to do when it came to sexual experiences. I’d become a wife and mother in my late teens, and my first husband had been quite conservative, in bed and out. With three children at home, I only really had the bandwidth for casual encounters, so I began responding to Craigslist ads for no-strings-attached sex – until I spotted a more romantic post by Miguel during one late-night trawl, and impulsively hit “reply”. The first time I slept with him a fortnight later was a revelation; he was just so eager to learn what turned me on, and before long we’d become a couple.
When, a few months in, Miguel mentioned that he and his first wife used to swing, I was intrigued. With male partners, I’m quite submissive, but I’d always wondered what it would be like to consensually dominate a female partner. Both of us were eager to make that fantasy a reality, and began searching online for another duo who’d be keen to play into it. During our first tryst with a husband and wife, I really came alive being in control of her pleasure. After our guests left, Miguel and I had some of the best sex of our lives, giddy with the memory of what had just happened.
