Eric’s libido always outstripped Bea’s, but with the perimenopause she experienced a surge of desire. Is Eric fully onboard with their new ménage à trois?
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When I kissed him in front of Eric during a meet-up in a bar, the chemistry was pretty electric
Eric and I have been inseparable, and monogamous, for 30 years. Since my first pregnancy in my late 20s, my libido’s been much lower than Eric’s. But when I started perimenopause, I experienced this surge of desire (and curiosity) again, and he and I began to discuss our fantasies. Both of us were turned on by the idea of a threesome with another man, so a couple of years ago, I asked Eric if he’d be up for going to an “adult social club”. Neither of us were ready to have sex with anyone else, but it felt like the perfect chance to dip a toe into that world.
In the end, we were too nervous to even speak to anyone, but it did open a door in our minds, and our sex life got better and more intense as a result. Eventually, I downloaded Feeld, a dating app for “open-minded people”, and after a few meet-ups, including a night having sex in the same room as another couple, last summer we arranged an actual threesome. We started by going on dates with various prospects, one of whom, Drake, stood out. He was 40, single, had been a third in a couple before, and when I kissed him in front of Eric in a bar, the chemistry was pretty electric.
