Lana and Jake didn’t talk about sex for years, but since they opened up their love life has been transformed
How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously
I had some messed up ideas around a woman’s role and the influence of porn on that
Jake was my first. I was 17 and he was 18. I lost my virginity way later than all my friends; sex had been so far out of my comfort zone. For me it was like social currency and I put a lot of pressure on myself to get it done. Since being with Jake I’ve worked on breaking down that pressure around sex.
It’s been a difficult journey. We’ve been together for more than four years now and once in a while I find myself getting into a spiral in my head. I’ve had a couple of panic attacks and worked myself up about sex.
