My wife is a big earner and I’ve recently admitted to myself that my life-coaching business, which I switched to after being unhappy in my previous sales job, is more of a hobby and me grasping for some meaning and value in life. We’re in our forties and we have two children, who I love looking after, though I resent that they want to be with her and all my hard work is taken for granted. I feel less of a man at times, an oddity with the other parents at the school gates and I’m losing self-respect.
How can I get out of this rut and make my wife understand how I feel so I can gain some support, rather than being their servant, personal assistant, chauffeur and general dogs body?
Shorts
It sounds as if there are two issues with which you’re struggling here.
Firstly, your role in a society that is still, broadly, sexist. By taking on the role of primary caregiver, you’re a trailblazer for a more equal society and an excellent role model to your children. But the chances are that when you were growing up, your dad wasn’t the main carer for you, so there’s no blueprint to follow. No wonder it feels uncomfortable at times.
