My wife has become a martyr since we had children - I can't do anything right

I am sick and tired of being in trouble all the time and being treated like an unreasonable boy.

Since we got married, my wife started wearing the pants, where previously we had a leg each. Since motherhood (our son is three and daughter is one) she’s taken it a step further and now I’m always unthoughtful, ungrateful, selfish and it feels like I can’t get anything right.

I work full-time and pull my weight with the kids, managing the house and money. She’s more hands-on with taking care of our home and the children’s day-to-day needs, which she says she wants to do.

So why do it like a martyr or with anger?

Worn out and worn down, Berkshire