My wife and I both retired a year ago. We were excited about the prospect of stopping work – we’ve saved hard and while we are not affluent, we also don’t have money worries so feel very fortunate.
But it turns out that I’m not suited to retirement at all. My wife has joined lots of groups and is making friends everywhere she goes, from badminton to fitness classes. She sees these new friends for coffee and lunches, too.
Meanwhile, I’m sitting at home not knowing what to do or how to make friends. I feel a burning resentment towards my wife that this is our time together – we’re both fit and well – and instead of making the most of it, she’s spending her time with other people.
We are spending more time together than when we worked, but I’m also spending a lot more time on my own than I’m used to. I’ve worked hard all my life so we could have this special period of life together and she seems oblivious.
How do I explain what I’m feeling?
