My question is about open relationships. My partner of four years and I have a good life together, we’ve bought a house and are considering marriage as we would like to have children and we are both in our late 30s. I think our life is very good and my family and his like each other and are very supportive. Also, we both like our work and can see progression and development there.
We should be deliriously happy but we are not.
My partner keeps asking for an open relationship, and by this he means he wants to invite another person (woman) into our sex lives. He says we are boring and, as consenting adults, we can expand our sex life into something more exciting. I know I should be more adventurous but although I feel I should want this, I am reluctant. I struggled to allow my partner to see my body and now there will be another woman to compare it with and, even though I don’t say this out loud, I’m very anxious he will prefer her.
I have had fantasies of threesomes, but I really think I would be too anxious to enjoy this in reality, but I don’t want to restrict my life either. I know my partner likes watching threesome porn and I’ve always said this is fine with me but I don’t feel any desire watching it with him and, if anything, these are the times I fake it. I really love him and maybe I could tolerate him having sex with someone else when I am not there.
