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My partner (38) and I (34) have been together for 3 years, living together for 2. We have a very physically affectionate relationship, a pretty solid sex life (though we did have to work at it a little bit). Recently, though, he’s been working different hours that have him waking up earlier and he’s mentioned that my snoring is keeping him up some nights. The other day, he asked me how I would feel if he crashed in our guest room on nights when it gets particularly bad.
I was so embarrassed. I didn’t even know that I snored, let alone that it was loud enough to keep him up. I hate the thought that he was sitting beside me losing sleep and I didn’t realize. He reassured me that this isn’t an every night thing — but I’m scared we’ll end up one of those couples that sleeps separately until they eventually stop “sleeping together” at all. Plus, there’s something really unsexy to me about driving him from bed with my chainsaw snores.
And more than anything, I don’t want to lose what we have. I love the extra time we’ve always had to hold each other at night and in the mornings and the chance to talk about our days. It’s my favorite part of every day. But I don’t want to shoot down what my friends are calling a ‘reasonable compromise’ with someone I love either.
