Your partner has lied to you before and you deserve to have the chance of becoming a mother. There are several options you can explore
I was very clear about wanting a family early in our relationship, but after two and a half years together my partner has admitted he doesn’t want kids. This is the best relationship I’ve had – he’s kind, patient, supportive, and we have the best sex.
We’re both anxious people with avoidance issues, but I felt safe and cherished until last year, when I discovered he had cheated. He said it was an attempt to “escape”. I was deeply shocked. I ended the relationship, but he begged for another chance and accepted an ultimatum: commit to living together, getting a dog and starting a family (things I told him I wanted early on). He agreed to the first two, but said he needed more time for the last.
I am 38 and asked repeatedly for honesty about children, fearing the same heartbreak I felt with my ex‑husband. Yet he kept it ambiguous, only to finally admit that he doesn’t want children but is afraid to lose me. I respect that it’s his decision, but I’m hurt and angry about being misled.
I am a touring artist, which makes starting a family challenging, and it feels impossible to do it alone. I fear that if I can’t make music – vital for my emotional and financial wellbeing – I may succumb to the depression and repeat the grim fate of my parents.
