Take your time. Often we need to find out who we are before we can know what, and who, we really want
I’m 18 and have been at university for a few months. Being here has made me realise certain things about myself, including my struggle to desire a relationship. I’ve never been in one and don’t believe I’ve ever been physically or sexually attracted to anyone. I know I am still young, but I’m worried this will never change. Since going to uni, I’ve been around friends and others experiencing intimate relationships or discussing feelings which I can’t relate to or understand. I believe I am straight, but then again, as I haven’t felt anything towards the opposite sex, I have questioned that.
I am quite an anxious person, have often felt quite out of place in social situations, especially the last few years, and wonder if this is all linked. One of my biggest goals in life is to have children, and I’m worried it may be hard due to how I’m feeling.
First, well done for making the transition from secondary school and home (it sounds like you have left home) to university. I wonder what it is about being at university, rather than at school, that has made you think about this? Going out into the world for the first time is a giant step and I think the impact is underrated, but it’s also a time of immense growth as you really start to see who you are.
