Sandra and Roy are adapting to sex as new parents, from postpartum pain to acting fast when they have a private moment
How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously
Sex was a reminder that I’m still me. That this identity still exists, which is really important because you do lose it a bit, especially in the early weeks of becoming a mother
I was so nervous about sex after having a baby. I was scared about it hurting. But Roy was very gentle. I cried when I orgasmed for the first time after I’d given birth. My body hadn’t been used for pleasure in so long. I was also having a lot of issues with breastfeeding at the time; my nipples were so painful and I felt as if my body was not my own. Roy touched me with his fingers and I found it so emotional to know that I could take pleasure from my body again. It was a reminder that I’m still me.
Sex was quite painful for a while, which was upsetting, but I think that is also normal. I had an episiotomy, so I had a lot of fear about the stitches breaking, but they healed quite quickly. I think the pain came from being dry down there, which is a side-effect of breastfeeding.
