Linda lost her sexual appetite after a hysterectomy, but making a list of sex cues with partner Elias helped her regain her desire
How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously
Since everything on the list is something we both like, when he sends me a suggestion it turns me on
The first time Elias and I had sex was the best sex I’d had in my life. We met about 13 years ago after I’d separated from my first husband, with whom I’d had a very mismatched sex drive. My ex said it was normal that you become like roommates after a few years. But sex was really important to me. I thought: I’m 30, I’m not ready to give it up.
Sex is an essential part of my relationship with Elias. But about seven years ago, I began having health issues and ended up having a hysterectomy which kicked me into early menopause. I wasn’t even 40. My sex drive just fell off a cliff.
