Since becoming parents, Rich and Laura haven’t prioritised intimacy … but they hope marriage counselling will reignite their erotic connection
How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously
Sex is still so important to me and I’m happier after – I’m just struggling to get in the mood
We have two children under 10, and being a mother to them nearly always takes priority. I rarely have time to do the things that nourish and sustain me – go to the gym, wash my hair, see friends – and by the end of the day I’m too exhausted from mothering to have sex. But when I’m more relaxed and rested, and able to prioritise myself, I’m more in the mood.
Scheduling also helps, so if we say, “Let’s have sex on Wednesday,” I go to bed earlier and make time for it. Rich is a great dad and does loads around the house, but I take on more of the mental load and have lost more of myself in parenthood. It’s just the way it is.
