Jake tends to be submissive, while Leo is more dominant. Now they’re living in different countries, is long-distance love working out for them?
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We waited until the fourth date to have sex. Leo then told me he was in an open relationship, but they were on the rocks
Leo and I first kissed on the dancefloor of a techno club in Hamburg 10 years ago, but we didn’t see each other again until 2020, when he messaged to say he was visiting London. Because of lockdown, we would meet up and have deep chats on park benches in the freezing cold, getting to know each other very quickly. We bonded over similar backgrounds – we’re very close to our families, who have always been loving and accepting of us being gay.
We waited until the fourth date to have sex. Leo then told me he was in an open relationship, but they were on the rocks. I said if you want me, you’ll have to end it with him. So he did. Leo has only ever been in open relationships, whereas I’ve always been monogamous, which has been a bit of an issue between us. I’m also only really interested in being a submissive bottom, whereas Leo’s versatile, and I’m conscious that an open relationship would give him the chance to flip more.
