Graham, 65
double quotation markOur sexual preferences cover everything from vanilla to being tied up and spanked
Josephine and I met 43 years ago. She was a housemate of my girlfriend – the woman who would then become my wife – so we’ve been friends for a long time. Our lives ran in parallel. We married, had kids, careers – but then our partners died of cancer within three days of each other in 2020.During that period, we reconnected and supported each other through our grief. About three years later, things suddenly fell into place for me. I realised I was attracted to Josephine and that she was someone I was very compatible with.At first, I expected it to be a platonic relationship. But one day we were cuddling on the sofa and I asked – a bit tongue-in-cheek, assuming our relationship wouldn’t be sexual – how she felt about kinky sex, which is something I explored with my late wife.I thought Josephine would push me out of the front door, but she didn’t. She said she’d never had kinky sex before, and she would like to give it a try. That lit the fuse for us.Our sexual preferences cover everything from vanilla to being tied up and spanked. We take it in turns to be in charge. It’s probably the best sex of my life, because as you become older you have to work at it more. You don’t rush sex because you physically can’t. So we have some long sessions, two or three hours, whereas before I’d be lucky to get 10 minutes.We both understand where we’re coming from and the life experience we’ve had, so there isn’t any sort of jealousy when we are thinking or talking about our late spouses. Sometimes we make some inevitable comparisons, but we’re honest about it, and we accept it when either one of us becomes upset on anniversaries or birthdays.Our relationship is in a state of constant evolution. We haven’t run out of ideas, or fallen into a rut. It is constantly developing. Coming on top of what we’ve been through, we know that to be alive is a miracle, and to be having fun as well is excellent.Josephine, 65
