Dan and Zoe met on a train and connected instantly. Twenty years and three kids later, they’re still trying out new things
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We have a cup of tea and a chat with the receptionist then go on to a leather-clad room
Twenty years ago, a woman sat opposite me on a train and quoted the first line of the book I was reading to me. We talked and talked – about books, architecture, family, relationships – and haven’t stopped since. I assumed I’d never see her again, but she gave me her number and after texting furiously for a week she invited me to stay with her, and our instant intellectual connection became an intense physical one. We didn’t get out of bed for three days. I practically moved in that weekend and never left.
We had three kids in four years. It was intense. Making space for sex has become harder as they’ve got older. But we’re a team, so we always find solutions. And in the past year, we’ve started renting a room in a local sex dungeon for a few hours every couple of months. It relaxes us to know there’s not going to be a knock on the door or a creaking floorboard to distract us. We have a cup of tea and a chat with the receptionist about knitting or what they’re watching on TV, then go into a leather‑clad room. It’s all surprisingly mundane, which is how sex truly is and should be.
