Sex parties allow Conrad and Callum to explore their desires in a safe space – and as couple
How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously
We keep the connection with subtle signals, glances across the room and an unspoken agreement that we won’t disappear
Every couple of months, Callum and I go to a sex-positive queer party. At some point, one of us will turn to the other and say, “Shall we explore?” and we’ll find the dark room: an almost pitch-black maze of little booths and benches where strangers touch, kiss and have sex. Attraction works differently inside the dark room and rejection can be blunt. People can gently push you away, saying, “No, I don’t want you to be part of this,” which reminds you how vulnerable sex can be.
Early on, when Callum was invited into something I wasn’t, the sudden feeling of being shut out made me leave. Now, we keep the connection with subtle signals, glances across the room and an unspoken agreement that we won’t disappear. We can wander, explore, flirt, touch, but it has to feel like we’re doing it together.
