Sharon Gordon is the brains behind the Lola Montez Brand leads the adult entertainment Industry and has revolutionised the way business is done.

If you have spent any time scrolling through social media lately, you have probably noticed a massive surge in "therapy-speak." Suddenly, everyone is a self-deprecating expert on their own mental health, throwing around terms like "narcissism," "gaslighting," and, most commonly, "boundaries."

But somewhere in our collective rush to protect our peace, we have lost the plot.

The single most asked question in my inbox this week is some variation of: "How do I set firm relationship boundaries without accidentally controlling my partner?"

It is a vital question. In our quest to avoid being walked over, many of us are building fortress walls and calling them "boundaries," while others are leaving their front doors wide open, wondering why they keep getting hurt.