Will’s recovery from prostate surgery led to a new level of intimacy with Lucy and brought them closer together
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I worried that intimacy would no longer be possible in the same way and questioned what that would mean for my sense of identity and our marriage
When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer a few years ago, I was offered a range of treatments – hormone therapy, chemotherapy, radiotherapy. But the truth was that nothing would be as effective as surgery.
After much consideration, I decided to have a prostatectomy, which would eradicate the cancer, but came with considerable risks, including nerve damage that might result in erectile dysfunction. During the lead-up to the procedure and the weeks of recovery that followed, I worried that intimacy would no longer be possible in the same way, and questioned what that would mean for both my sense of identity and our marriage. In fact, and to my complete surprise, it’s transformed our sex life in the best possible way.
