PremiumOpinionOpinion byViv ConwayNZ Herald·4 Aug, 2026 07:01 AM5 mins to readWith the amount of information online, it’s really not surprising that something intended to be fun becomes one more thing you need to perfect.A woman messaged me recently asking what changes she could make to ensure her and her husband’s bedroom activities were always the best they could be, and it unsettled me.
The message wasn’t exactly out of the ordinary considering my role as co-founder of a sexual wellness company, yet it








