How are you supposed to juggle caring for your aging parents while also raising young children of your own? And how do you budget for those competing responsibilities?Reema Khrais talks to Nicole Chung, author of “A Living Remedy,” about her experiences caring for her parents in their final years of illness, how the U.S. healthcare system failed them, and the toll it took on her both emotionally and financially.“If you'd ask me how I was, I probably wouldn't have said I feel very close to a breakdown because a lot of the time, I wasn't even conscious of it,” recalls Chung. “Like, I didn't have time to stop and think; I was just in survival mode for what felt like years.” A few takeaways from this episode: The unspoken financial burden of mourning: “No one really talks about how much illness and death involve these to-do lists,” Chung tells us. “There's this gigantic administrative and financial burden that you have to cope with before you can even begin to process emotionally.” It’s never too soon to start thinking about estate planning: You want to have plans in place before the moment of crisis. “I know how difficult it is to[…] make really tough decisions that can't help but feel fraught and scary when you are already sick,” Chung shares. That’s why she’s starting the process now and talking with her children while she’s still young and healthy. “I'm hoping, even if it freaks them out a little, that they understand we're doing this so that when it actually needs to be in place, we'll have already had a lot of these hard conversations.”Showing yourself grace: “It can feel selfish to even think about yourself and your own needs,” Chung admits. “But truly, you can't help anybody else if you are not even trying to take care of yourself. And I wish this is something I had learned and internalized a lot sooner.”If you liked this episode, share it with a friend. And if you want to tell us what you thought about the episode or anything else, email us at uncomfortable@marketplace.org or fill out the form below.