If you’ve thrown your share of dinner parties and holiday gatherings, it’s easy to think of all the ways guests can spoil the evening. Maybe it’s a friend who sneaks your dog table scraps, leading to an episode of diarrhea, or an aunt who arrives an hour early and expects a tour of your home. But what if it’s the other way around? Sometimes, the most well-meaning hosts can inadvertently make their guests uncomfortable.
Below, we consulted experts about the hosting habits you should avoid and how to put your guests at ease. Read on to see if you’re guilty of these common mistakes.
Going overboard with the theme or schedule
Your attention to detail is what makes you a thoughtful host. “But sometimes you can get so caught up in curating the perfect theme, you lose sight of what a gathering is truly about: the people you get to spend time with,” said Michelle Durpetti, owner and lead planner at Michelle Durpetti Events. Her advice was to make your theme welcoming. “Guests should feel inspired, not intimidated,” she said.
She also warned against trying to fit too many activities into one party. Olivia Pollock, Evite’s etiquette and hosting expert, agreed, saying that overscheduling can make guests feel rushed and stressed. If there’s a lull, be prepared with activities, but allow the event to unfold naturally.
