It sounds as if your friend is projecting her own unhappiness on to you. Don’t keep apologising, because that just feeds into her need for control
I’m 17 and have just gone into my final year at school. Since I started secondary school, I’ve had pretty much the same friendship group: B, C and D.
My best friend (B) and I have always been quiet and hesitant about doing anything where it’s just the two of us, for fear of leaving the other two out. However, this past year we have been consistently ignored by C and D, and decided to do the things we want to do and not wait for approval. We can be friends independently of the others while still being friends with them too.
Recently, we made plans together and bumped into C and D while out. They had gone out without saying anything to us. C in particular seemed annoyed by this, which was surprising because she, especially, leaves us out.
I have always felt as though she doesn’t value my friendship, or B’s, but expects us to be there for her and for our friendship to revolve around her. This recently came to a head over an incident where she felt we’d left her out. She called me a name and didn’t read texts B and I sent her to apologise.
