Advice: After 30 years of marriage, he’s excited to divorce. I’m devastated

PremiumSahaj Kaur KohliWashington Post·24 Aug, 2026 06:00 PM4 mins to read"He has a huge number of family and friends supporting and reinforcing this decision. I have no one.""He has a huge number of family and friends supporting and reinforcing this decision. I have no one."Well-meaning people keep saying the divorce is an “opportunity”, but the letter writer doesn’t see it that way.

Dear Sahaj: My 70-year-old husband has decided after 30 years of marriage he wants a divorce. He is overjoyed by his choice, and I am devastated. He spends all his time hiking.

Advice: After 30 years of marriage, he’s excited to divorce. I’m devastated

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