Rappler’s People section runs an advice column by couple Jeremy Baer and clinical psychologist Dr. Margarita Holmes.
Jeremy has a master’s degree in law from Oxford University. A banker of 37 years who worked in three continents, he has been training with Dr. Holmes for the last 10 years as co-lecturer and, occasionally, as co-therapist, especially with clients whose financial concerns intrude into their daily lives.
Together, they have written two books: Love Triangles: Understanding the Macho-Mistress Mentality and Imported Love: Filipino-Foreign Liaisons.
Dear Dr Holmes and Mr Baer,
I am 19 years old, a freshman in medical school. I never wanted to be a doctor, but my mother forced me. We are poor and she said being a doctor was the only guarantee of our family not needing to depend on anyone financially. My father just died then and his retirement allowed us all to finish college, but she said she saved the rest so I could go to medical school.
