Rappler’s People section runs an advice column by couple Jeremy Baer and clinical psychologist Dr. Margarita Holmes.
Jeremy has a master’s degree in law from Oxford University. A banker of 37 years who worked in three continents, he has been training with Dr. Holmes for the last 10 years as co-lecturer and, occasionally, as co-therapist, especially with clients whose financial concerns intrude into their daily lives.
Together, they have written two books: Love Triangles: Understanding the Macho-Mistress Mentality and Imported Love: Filipino-Foreign Liaisons.
Dear Dra. Holmes and Mr. Baer,
I am 33 years old po and in a 6 year relationship with a man 5 years younger than me. We got married last December. We were sexually active on our first year together. Even though we were not married yet, we were open to his family, to the extent that I would sleep over at their place about three times a week.
