You be the judge: my boyfriend wants two types of potato with our meals, but I prefer rice. Should he compromise?

Paul loves his spuds and finds Noor’s preference for rice mystifying. She wants a more equal approach to carbs. You decide who gets a roasting?

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We split the cooking, so it’s a battle between us as to which carb is better. To me, rice is more versatile

My boyfriend, Paul, and I moved in together five months ago. Since then, a rift has emerged – Paul wants potatoes with every meal. Actually, he often wants two types of potatoes with his meals – mash and chips, for example, or roasties and mash. I prefer rice. We split the cooking, so it’s a continual battle between us: which carb is better?

Paul is part-Irish and part-Welsh, and says potatoes are part of his heritage. But I’m Indian, so the same is true for me about rice. I’ve always eaten rice as my carb, even when sharing meals with people from different backgrounds. To me, rice isn’t just a side dish, it’s a cornerstone of culture, identity, and countless comfort meals and festive feasts.