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Dear Family Beef,
My grandmother is 87 and hasn’t talked to her sister, who is 93, for 10 years. They have always been at odds on-and-off and live on different continents, but used to at least have phone calls on their birthdays. But something just broke down a few years back and now neither of them pick up the phone or answer each other’s letters.
At least from my grandma’s perspective, she said it is a dumb fight she now considers trivial. Recently, she said she doesn’t expect to talk to her sister again and simply said “it is what it is.” But I am worried she’s going to have regrets if they are never able to reconcile or at least talk again. Plus, she’s been dealing with more and more health issues this year and is no longer able to travel back to her home country where her sister still lives.
My siblings and I have talked about this a lot because there’s a whole side of the family we’re afraid we’ll never be close to or get to know because of her decision.
