I've been married 23 years—I have 6 rules for a successful relationship: 'If you do them all, you'll be happier than most'

After 23 years of marriage and raising kids together, I’ve learned that being a great partner involves structure and intention.

I’ve walked the path myself, from being a breadwinning husband who did little at home to becoming the go-to household manager in a marriage with three kids and a powerhouse executive spouse. Through my platform, Modern Husbands, I also help couples build the systems they need to manage money and domestic responsibilities as a team.

Couples in the most successful relationships, including my wife and I, do six things for each other without question. If you do them all, you’ll be happier than most.

Men today face mixed signals: Be the breadwinner, but also do half the housework (and don’t expect any recognition). That confusion leads to imbalance at home.

In our household, we assign responsibilities based on skills, passions, and goals — not gender. I manage our finances because it’s my professional background. I also cook because I love it.