“There’s something I have to tell you,” my mother said in a tone that suggested a life-changing reveal was coming my way at Applebee’s.

“I’m adopted?” I asked.

At 22, I knew my dark coloring had long been a point of discomfort for my parents, both blond with light eyes.

“Who does she look like...?” people would ask, fishing for a story.

“Joy looks like Joy,” my mother used to say.