Women are so fed up with dating men that the phenomenon even has a name: heterofatalism. So what do we do with our desire?

Credit...Illustration by Kristina Tzekova

Supported by

By Jean Garnett

The stranger arrived at the bar before I did, as I intended him to, and was waiting for me at a table in back. He had the kind of face I like, and he had been a little difficult to pin down, delayed in his responses, which I also like. The place was loud with the “having fun” sounds people make when they expect to have fun any minute now, so we were leaning in to hear each other. His hair, I thought, would be good to put my hands in.