If there’s one emotion that’s tough to deal with, it’s anger. Growing up, many of us learn that expressing it means we’re “problematic” or “mean.” But anger is not a character flaw. It’s an important messenger that shows up when you’re violated, hurt, or wronged.
As a psychologist and emotions-focused therapist with over 20 years of experience, I’ve seen how people’s relationship with anger influences how they approach it.
Those who avoid the emotion tend to feel stuck and powerless. Those who befriend their anger can make good use of its message. When handled wisely, anger helps you deal with conflict, make sound choices, and stand up for yourself.
Here are five ways emotionally savvy people work with their anger:
Most of us suppress our anger occasionally. For example, if your partner angers you at a party, you might bite your tongue until you get home.
