I love her and find her sexy but can’t climax when we have sex, and am getting increasingly worried about it. Is treatment available?
I think I have a problem sexually. I can ejaculate alone when I masturbate, but not with a partner. This is becoming a problem as my partner is complaining about my inability to ejaculate when I am with her. I am now over 30 and it is starting to get me worried. Is there any treatment or help I can get? I really love this woman and find her sexy, but I am not able to get to the point of ejaculation.
The transition from solo sex to satisfying partner sex is not always easy. Some people become so accustomed to particular types of touch, pressure or strokes during masturbation that they find switching to the different sensations with another person extremely challenging. In addition, some people require intense focus to achieve orgasm or ejaculation, and the anxiety or distraction of intimacy with a partner interrupts their usual process.
It is possible to retrain your sexual style to accommodate a partner – and although this can best be done with the help of a sexual therapist, you could start by considering your exact needs in terms of the mechanics of your sexual response and encourage your partner to help by trying to replicate it. For example, perhaps you need to ask her to use a firmer or lighter touch during foreplay.
