Advice: I’m torn between being the ‘do everything’ parent or a single parent

PremiumEmily MormanWashington Post·31 Aug, 2026 06:00 AM5 mins to read"I’m afraid of what I am modelling for my daughter: that in a relationship, the woman needs to do everything.""I’m afraid of what I am modelling for my daughter: that in a relationship, the woman needs to do everything."Her partner’s undertreated ADHD and PTSD means almost everything falls on the letter writer.

Dear Say More: My only long-term relationship is my current one; in September, we will have been together 7 years. I got pregnant 6 months into the relationship – I was 39 at the time, the

Advice: I’m torn between being the ‘do everything’ parent or a single parent

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