I grew up in China, but I'm raising my daughter in LA. A trip back to visit family made me rethink my parenting style.

Grace Cong Sui and her family live in California; for Lunar New Year, she and her daughter traveled to China to visit relatives.

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My aunt chased her granddaughter around the living room with a spoon and a bowl of rice and vegetables. My niece's eyes stayed fixed on the TV as her mouth opened and closed automatically while my aunt slipped in bite after bite. My daughter sat beside them, watching quietly.I needed to say something."You shouldn't feed her like that," I said. "It's not good for her."Before my aunt could respond, my mother shot me a look from across the room — the kind many Chinese mothers can give without saying a word. I fell silent.After nearly a decade abroad, this was the first time I'd brought my daughter back to China. We were in Qingdao, about halfway between Beijing and Shanghai, to celebrate Lunar New Year and spend time with my extended family.

Cousins got to spend time together in China.

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