Whether you love or loathe generative AI chatbots, they’re becoming increasingly involved in the business of romance. There’s understandable skepticism about the technology’s place in dating. Still, a growing number of people are turning to AI as a de facto dating coach or relationship expert. Some use the technology to get guidance on creating a dating app profile, decode messages from potential partners and draft replies or seek general dating advice. But those inquiries can have varying degrees of success. Understanding how to best harness a chatbot’s power and acknowledging its limitations can help.Here are some tips from experts.
AI should be your ‘wingman,’ not your ‘ghostwriter’Logan Ury, the director of relationship science at the dating app Hinge, said she understands people’s hesitance about AI but however we search for love, “what we’re searching for stays the same.” Hinge has AI-powered conversation starters and feedback tools to help build users’ profiles and make interactions smooth.Ury said AI should be like your wingman rather than your ghostwriter because “when you show up on that date, it’s very important that who your match meets is the person who they’ve been talking to online.”Getting feedback on a dating app profile and asking for first date ideas based on the interests of your match are good uses of the technology in Ury’s opinion. She does not advise copying and pasting messages written by a chatbot or using generative AI to alter or create images of yourself.
