One of the biggest mistakes couples make, especially when living together or raising children, is that they stop dating, says the writer.
MEET a couple in the early stages of dating, and they’re euphoric about life and their future together. They’re giddy with excitement about this new person who seems just perfect. Everything they say and do feels right. The romance has them smiling for no reason, listening to love songs, and even inspiring poetic bursts of writing.
They share every detail of their dates and conversations with their friends. They are convinced he or she is the one. This is the phase where we ignore anything that doesn’t fit our image of the perfect Hollywood romance – living happily ever after.
Then comes commitment – whether that means becoming exclusive, moving in together, or getting married. Suddenly, the cracks begin to show. Little annoyances arise. Frustration creeps in as romance seems to be overtaken by work, family commitments, household responsibilities, or even the loss of personal time with friends. The spark begins to fade.
You still say you love each other. You want to be together. There are many beautiful moments but you find yourself yearning for the magic of the early days: the first kiss, the first time you made love, the butterflies you felt when they walked into a room.
