NYT: In the final stages of his dementia, Ellen Barry's father found his 6-year-old self.
PremiumEllen BarryNew York Times·17 May, 2026 06:00 PM14 mins to readAn image of Ellen Barry's father in his childhood, from a family photo album. Photo illustration / Graham Dickie, The New York TimesLast month Ellen Barry climbed the hill to a laboratory at The Rockefeller University in New York City, carrying images of her father’s brain to show to a scientist she had never met.
A couple of years ago, in the middle of the night, I crept downstairs to find my
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