These types of relationships can be challenging – you need to have an honest conversation about what you both want
My partner and I are professionals in our early 30s. We’ve been together for five years, and long-distance for the last three, but have just moved back in together.
While we were long-distance, we both had difficulties in our work. She had important exams, and it’s taken a long time for me to get into my career. Over the last year, our relationship has become strained, and it feels as if we’ve grown apart. Now it feels as if we aren’t friends, let alone partners. This is complicated by our work shifts. Despite now living together, we still barely see each other.
We’re both keen to figure things out, but feel very unclear about how to stay together. When our relationship works it’s phenomenal, and I miss the easy companionship, love and sense of adventure that now seem to be missing. Any advice to help us move forward together would be greatly appreciated.
My first question was: what’s making you want to stay? I wonder if the relationship has run its course, but the time apart has made you feel that now you’re back together you have to make it work? You say it’s phenomenal when it works, but how long ago was that?
