I was a hit with my mahjong buddies because I didn’t play like a typical Chinese person. The years since have taught me better

“What now? What on earth do you want from me? This is crazy,” she growls while wrestling 13 tiles into some kind of order, burrowing through her hair for an answer, agonising over which tile is the least risky to discard.

Somehow it often falls to me, the poor church mouse at this table, to remind her we’re playing for rather low stakes, having capped every win or loss at HK$40 (US$5.10). But she always retorts, “It’s no fun if you don’t take it seriously.”

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